{"id":2479,"date":"2013-12-11T20:59:21","date_gmt":"2013-12-11T20:59:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.curved-vision.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/?p=2479"},"modified":"2013-12-11T20:59:21","modified_gmt":"2013-12-11T20:59:21","slug":"nervous-vs-confident","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.awareplus.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/nervous-vs-confident\/","title":{"rendered":"Nervous vs confident"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As you&#8217;d expect, I&#8217;m associated with the Professional Speaking Association (of UK and Ireland). They have a reasonably active facebook group and there was a recent post about how even professionals get nervous when they perform. The overwhelming consensus was &#8220;Yes we do!&#8221; followed by &#8220;Yes, we should!&#8221;. \u00a0I even cited a company maxim in the discussion.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>The day you&#8217;re not nervous when you stand up to speak is the day <em>after<\/em> you should have quit!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>It brought to mind a distinction I picked up not as a speaker or even as a presentations trainer, but rather as a theatrical performer&#8230; Being nervous and being confident are not as closely linked as people think they are.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s perfectly possible to be both nervous and confident, but it&#8217;s not a distinction we often make &#8211; and particularly if we don&#8217;t think about it.<\/p>\n<p>I can be perfectly confident (I know my material, I&#8217;ve rehearsed, I&#8217;ve gone through my pre-course checklist, my team are with me, it&#8217;s a well constructed presentation with great material and so on) but I can also be absolutely terrified (the ultimate in nervousness) because of all the things that can go wrong despite that.<\/p>\n<p>In a sense, I&#8217;m confident about the things I can control but nervous because there are always things I can&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>All too many presenters and speakers confuse the two concepts and end up feeling anxious. Anxiety is a different state of mind! It&#8217;s what you end up with when you&#8217;re nervous but <strong>not<\/strong> confident. Anxiety is a close cousin to fear. And (as any fan of Dune will tell you) fear is the mind killer. While anxiety won&#8217;t actually kill your ability to think it might seriously cripple it!<\/p>\n<p>So what to do?<\/p>\n<p>Well, it&#8217;s not as if I&#8217;ve not liberally sprayed tools for dealing with nerves throughout this blog over the past few years &#8211; fairly recently writing about the humble checklist &#8211; but there&#8217;s a very simple too I use which comes in handy when answering the question &#8220;Yes, those tools are fantastic Simon, but I forget them in the heat of the moment!&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s this&#8230; for most of your presentation you&#8217;re going to have notes and keywords in your Presenter View, right? \u00a0(If not, why not!) That means that you see things on your screen that don&#8217;t get projected for the audience to see. So why not use that option for your spash screen &#8211; the one you have before your presentation starts.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.curved-vision.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/splashscreen.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2513\" alt=\"splashscreen\" src=\"http:\/\/www.curved-vision.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/splashscreen-300x193.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"193\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.awareplus.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/splashscreen-300x193.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.awareplus.co.uk\/presentation-skills-blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/splashscreen.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Here&#8217;s a quick a dirty screen grab of a slide deck we&#8217;re putting together for Wirral Borough Council: the thing you need to notice is the set of bullet points at the bottom of the splash slide (the title slide). This is a list of things I need to remind myself to do just before I start to speak.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230; it&#8217;s almost idiot proof. \u00a0 Only almost, I admit, but better than nothing!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As you&#8217;d expect, I&#8217;m associated with the Professional Speaking Association (of UK and Ireland). 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